Download or read book Crush the Bully written by Ash Dalby and published by . This book was released on 2017-07-19 with total page 406 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: WHY YOU MUST TAKE ACTIONBullying can impact major aspects of your life including mental and physical health, career, friendships and relationships. If you have had a relationship with a bully, you might regret the years that you have lost by staying in the relationship. A workplace bully can affect your motivation, which can negatively impact on your career. A social bully can make you feel lonely and insignificant, even though you are part of a group.Some bullies enslave their victims. "Enslave" might seem like a strong word. However, when someone makes you so afraid that, you won't object in any way to their demands or insults, they have psychologically enslaved you. The long-term effects of bullying can take years to recover from. Victims of bullying may develop depression, anxiety and complex posttraumatic stress disorder.Whether you are a victim of bully or have been in the past, you must take action.WHY THIS BOOK IS DIFFERENTThe fundamental premise of this book is that, bullies know they are bullies. As such, you cannot reason with them. Many authors tell you that you should talk to the bully and tell them that you feel hurt by their behaviour. This is usually pointless. In fact, trying to reason with a bully can make the situation even worse. If you try to talk to them, they will usually lie and deny. Even if they acknowledge your feelings, they will often employ another strategy to bully you. Even worse, the bully might accuse you of abusing them, simply because you tried to talk to them about their behaviour. They might present themselves as the victim. Then, they will often use this as an excuse to be even nastier to you. WIN LOTS OF SMALL BATTLES AND YOU WILL WIN THE WARThis book teaches you the skills to take the bully's power away. You should view, each time that you take the bully on, as a battle. You should not raise your voice. I am talking about a skilful battle of words. Each time the bully attacks you, you will be armed with a counter-attack and not just a defence. The idea is that, each time you and the bully have a battle of words, the bully will come off looking foolish. Bully's want to walk over their victims. They don't want to risk losing a battle of words and consequently, losing face in front of other people. The idea is that the bully will eventually realise that, by attacking you, he or she can end up socially wounded. At this point, most bullies will leave you alone. This book contains carefully planned out strategies for each situation that you might find yourself in.